I've been feeling like Jay has been holding me at arm's length and at a distance on purpose. I've been patient with taking things slowly, but lately I have felt like I am far more into him than he's into me because of the distancing. Last night we went to the Wed night show as usual, and he was distant from me all night. I ended up feeling hurt, and took off without saying anything and without saying goodbye. He wrote me a text as I was driving home, telling me that's probably not the best way forward. So I wrote him a text this morning asking if we could talk. I told him what's on my mind, and that the distancing last night hurt me so I left. A friend who knows we are dating even noticed it and mentioned it to me, telling me if it were him, he'd be all over me. Last night it felt more like we are just acquaintances -- he wasn't reciprocating any of my affectionate gestures. Also, last night his ex wife was texting him, so he became distracted by that.

Ugh. I hate this part of dating. The early phase of not knowing what's really going on and having to guess how the other person is feeling.

He says I am probably right, and that it's not me, but him, and that he will talk to me later... he is tending to his friend's dog kennel right now.

I want to have a heart to heart conversation with him. I want to know if he is closed off to a relationship developing and to real feelings developing between us.. if he's going to keep a wall up, that won't work for me and I don't want to get hurt. I'm not gonna drive 5 hours roundtrip to see him if he's not going to invest in this any further.