As about Jay. He seems to be close enough to you to have sex but not feeling close enough to show affection at the event, unless he is very affectionate in private the message he sends with his behavior is not a pleasant one. I hope todays conversation will provide clarity

Same as a previous poster, I’d not drive 5 hours to his house and then be ignored at events.

Also “taking it slow” means let’s not sleep together yet, let’s have a date once a week not every day, let’s not move in together and let’s not get married too soon. Or something like that

It doesn’t mean “let’s be cold and distant and go places acting like we don’t know each other”. It’s not taking it slow. It’s showing that “he is just not that into you”. I am not saying it’s the case. I am saying that’s how he behaves. And no one can try not to have feelings for someone. You either do or you don’t.

Cold and distant is unacceptable so time to explain what’s happening