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Old May 12, 2023, 08:31 AM
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Originally Posted by divine1966 View Post
Honestly ton of people love outdoor activities and music. It’s not enough for a relationship. It’s enough for friendships and activity partnerships. Having things in common is very important but not enough.

When I react to something with disproportionate intensity it was because my guts are telling me that something is off. He can’t give you what you want. The way you react to it wouldn’t change the essence

If you want outdoor activities partners and music events appreciating crowd, you need friendships more than anything. And you are just coming out of divorce so it’s not really the best time for dating
I feel ready to date, and I want to date. Only I can determine if I am ready or not. It doesn't matter that I am coming off a divorce. Many people date just following a divorce, especially if you want a life partner, ultimately. I am not getting any younger, and I know what I want and what I am looking for.

I don't think I reacted with disproportionate intensity, if that's what you're saying? Sure, I took off the other night without telling him, but it had been building within me over the last week or so that I sensed we're on very different pages. By keeping his distance from me at the show, it was the culmination of that feeling, and I just kind of was like, this isn't what I want after 2 months of dating... I wanted more.

So it is what it is.. .maybe I didn't react well or in the best manner, but I was hurt, and I ran away.
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Last edited by Have Hope; May 12, 2023 at 08:46 AM.
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