My dad has never respected my boundaries most of my life. Especially since I gained weight over 20 years ago. He is a narcissist. My history: I used to be bullimic in my 20’s to my 30’s.

I stopped on my own. Him & my mom nagged me to death about my weight despite knowing that I was bullimic. They both called me fat. My dad then became sneaky by saying he’s concerned about my health & that he doesn’t want me to get diabetes.

He wouldn’t shut up with the unsolicited diet advice. I told him to please not give me unsolicited advice, but he ignored me & disrespected my boundaries.

Him & my mom didn’t mention my weight for awhile since I yelled at them & threatened to stop seeing them if they didn’t behave.

That worked for awhile. Now my dad won’t shut up about it again. So I gave him a set of rules with severe punishments. I told him that he’s cut off from email & the phone for a month.

So he he weirdo sent me a letter nagging me about my weight again under the guise of ‘concern’. I don’t have diabetes or any health issues btw. I tokd him to never wver mention my weight as it’s triggering. I even said that I started throwing up again.

He obviously didn’t care. He said nothing about that. I was so pissed that I screamed at him on the phone. He told me in the letter that maybe I calmed down now. On the phone he said that I’m being childish’, then he hung up on me! Wth?

I told him that he violated my boundaries & is banned from seeing my husband & I for the holidays. He is a monster! My husband won’t stick up for me. I told him to talk to my dad as he won’t listen to me. He said he did before & that’s just the way that he is.

So basically my husband thinks that i should tolerate his abuse! No! Hell no! Why won’t he respect my boundaries & why is he obsessed with my weight?

He is fat & has always been fat. I feel like my dad thinks that I have nothing going for me but my looks now.