Ok, I gotta get this out!!!

My date last night? Oh man... I think he is VERY likely NPD!!!!

When we first sat down, he asked me to tell him everything about my marriage.. what happened, etc. So, I started to tell him about my ex, BUT as soon as I mentioned NPD within my first sentence, he immediately interrupted and turned the conversation around onto HIM & HIS marriage, telling me that HIS ex wife had been diagnosed as NPD and Borderline... then he begins to tell me more of the story of her and how she became suicidal, attempted suicide and ended up being hospitalized for 2 months, despite being a highly accomplished medical surgeon!

So I asked him, was there any indication beforehand of these personality disorders, was it a tumultuous relationship and was she abusive? He said no to all three..... that was a huge glaring red flag and tip off right there for me....

it turns out she has custody of their kids and has alienated him from his children. Now, if she has custody, yet was hospitalized, what really went down?

He also seemed to be boasting to me about their 2.5 million dollar property that they had owned together in a very wealthy neighboring town. Only someone who wants to boast will mention how much their home costs, not a modest person.

Then the rest of the night was mainly him talking about himself, and he barely asked me any questions about me, my life or who I am.... I never even really got to finish the story about my ex husband and my marriage.

At the end of the night, he managed to insult me.

He had mentioned earlier how a woman he had dated was very "short and unattractive".

Well, while he was walking me to my car, he asked why I didn't walk to the restaurant because it's so close to my home, and I said because I'm wearing heels, and I showed him my heels, so he blurted out "how short are you???" NOT, how tall are you...

so I turned it around on him and said the same back to him--- he's only 5'9". I am 5'2". I was turned off and insulted by his tone and his question, the way he worded it and the way he sounded, as though being "short" is a bad thing, or a turnoff. Clearly, he likes taller women.

But the real tip off to me about him is the fact that his ex wife wasn't abusive, according to him, yet has two major personality disorders (allegedly). He also boasted about having so many friends.

So, I am putting it all together and I think this guy is actually NPD himself, yet projected this onto his ex wife, and he likely made her suicidal!

Luckily, I wasn't attracted to him and don't want a second date after this first date.

I think I am getting far better at this....