I’m definitely disappointed about Jay. But we did have several key differences, one being he supports Trump and I don’t. I’m essentially apolitical, but I wondered about Jay’s take on the recent findings that Trump is guilty of sexually inappropriate behavior. Not to mention that 12 women have accused him of sexual assault… he’s a predator so I wondered what Jay’s stance is on that. He supports his policies he said, not necessarily his personality. So we differed fundamentally there. And Jay would prefer to live in isolation, away from everything in the woods. To me, that sounds dreadful! I need a city near by me for culture and nightlife.. and people! He says he’s a loner - I’m independent but very social and need social interaction . He also didn’t communicate enough for my tastes - I wanted more than he was willing to give.

So maybe we’re just too incompatible. I’m lucky that I didn’t really get hurt by this. We didn’t end on sour terms really, and I can be friendly towards him when I see him again in a couple weeks.

Still, I had my hopes up - I liked being around him. He has a very laid back and calming energy, while I’m kind of more wired and energized. Oh well. It is what is is. I think he needs more healing from his marriage. He chased his ex wife for years after their divorce. He pursued her just like my ex pursued me. His ex was a cutter, and had men sending her sexually explicit photos of themselves. I didn’t understand what was so attractive to him about her - still don’t. He said they had a “connection”. To each their own. I wouldn’t be attracted to a cutter myself. That would be a huge red flag for me and a huge deterrent. For all I know, Jay may not be that mentally healthy. .