Some men are very simple. If a woman is pretty, that’s all they care about. They don’t care what’s inside. Some aren’t that deep.

I’d say if she is such a mess, it’s very irresponsible of this guy to allow her raising a kid full time with father providing minimum involvement from a far. It can’t be good for a child. No judge would allow her to move if she was such a mess and the father objected. Red flag. Not a responsible parent.

I bet if you asked her, she’d have a different story. 99% that your soon to be ex tells people how unstable and messed up you were. And next woman would wonder why he even liked you. Take it all with a grain of salt