I do wonder if I became too impatient with Jay? Is 2 months a reasonable timeframe to want and expect more communication, more engagement, and slightly more commitment within a budding new relationship?

I mean, while he was in the Caribbean, he had written to me that we should take a mini trip together - but he still held me at arm's length or at a great distance, and it became very frustrating for me. I found myself constantly waiting for him to get back to me via text, hours would go by in between communications, including responses to my own texts.

When I had expressed to him a week ago that I was anxious about possibly running into my ex at the memorial gathering for our friend, Jay took hours to get back to me. I wanted some sort of supportive reply from him - like don't worry, I got your back. But later I found out that he had deliberately not replied to me for the entire day. I was really bothered by that. I wanted reassurance from him.

Maybe still, I was expecting too much too soon from him? I really don't know. Since he had invited me on a mini trip, just the two of us, I figured he would try to communicate more with me and engage more with me, but he just didn't. He continued to reply hours and hours later, and only with just brief texts. I also figured he would have been more supportive around running into my ex. I wasn't getting that from him.