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Originally Posted by divine1966
How do you know he deliberately didn’t reply versus just got too busy? Did he tell you? If he deliberately did not reply, it’s quite a nasty move and isn’t someone you want to be with. That’s quite asinine
Saying “we should go on a mini trip” isn’t the same as “inviting” anyone anywhere. Inviting would be “make sure you free up days from 15th to 20th as I booked us a trip” or “let’s sit down now, let’s look at a calendar and book a trip now”. Otherwise it’s just a general chit chat.
Overall it’s better to pay attention to actions more than words.
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He told me that he had told his friend that he hadn't responded to my text about being anxious, so yes, it was deliberate. He knew he hadn't replied, and he took his time in replying. I don't now recall if he did ever reply to that text.
I had also reached out to his friend, asking for support around it... I was trying to gather my support system and make it clear that running into my ex made me very anxious.
After Jay returned from his trip, and when I brought up the topic of a mini trip for us, he said, yeah I was thinking of that.. then he corrected himself twice and said I was/am thinking of that. Past tense and present tense together, as though he had almost changed his mind.
I just get wishy washy from him. Not an investment in wanting to grow the relationship and see if it could turn into something more special, longer lasting, and more committed.