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Originally Posted by Discombobulated
Yeah.
I appreciate the replies you’ve received, I struggle with this too. I prefer direct communication, it doesn’t have to be rude.
I think there are people who are direct communicators. For instance last week a friend I hadn’t seen for a long while told me I need to visit more often, and to ring first to check she’s in. I just wish more people were like that.
If people are new acquaintances it’s trickier but if you know them better it’s okay I think to say “I do better with direct communication, and I appreciate others using this” or some such thing.
Yes I get why you’re tired, sometimes a break is helpful.
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It’s not just me then, good. I wish that more people were direct too. Being ‘polite’ & saying yes at first then saying no later is one thing I don’t get. It’s rude to literally cancel plans ar the last second. All of that could’ve been avoided with a direct no, I can’t go with you to that event or whatever, sorry.
Or no, I’m not interested in seeing that movie. I had to ask 3 of my indirect friends to please give me an answer as I wasn’t sure if they were interested in going to see this movie or not. They said nothing at first.
It’s like i was supposed to take the hint that no response equates no, lol. I don’t understand why people simply can’t say no thanks nicely. It’s not rude. It’ll hurt my feelings a lot less than being flaked on at the last second.
This lady I used to know thought it was rude to say no to anything at all! Even to playing a game! She ended up lecturing me to death about how I ‘hurt’ her other friends feelings by saying no to playing a game I hated.
Needless to say, I ended that toxic controlling friendship eventually.
Her friends didn’t seem upset. If they were, then they’re being ridiculous & childish! lol I was expected to make lame excuses & say, oh, maybe I’ll play that later or something like that, lol 😆
No is not a bad word. Apparently a lot of people, especially women seem to think that it’s a bad word.