You texted him, THEN his friend, because you were anxious about seeing the ex at the funeral do? Did you expect them to fight for you? Thats the first thing that would have occurred to me, that you were setting him up to get in a fight. I dont remember if you said he had any kind of record, but i think he would really want to avoid something like that, esp if he had weed on him!

Also, i really hate when people use "poor me" to manipulate or control other people. My mother and her sister were ALWAYS dying if me and my cousin didnt obey them. They were the strongest weak people i ever met. They always got their way.

If you have anxiety, you have to learn how to deal with it, on your own. Dont use it as an excuse to forge (or force) connections - that has to be a very unstable bond. Its not the real you, and its not the real other person. So any connection is meaningless.

You cannot use "i was anxious" as an excuse. Or as a basis for a relationship. Or "he reassures me." About what?