Something else: in the same context (tango dancing), I do meet another woman who is 7 or 8 years older than me. We do get along fine but she just came out of a relationship with a very dominant and manipulative partner - an experience I escaped from four years ago - and I have the impression that she would still take that partner back any minute.

On the other hand, I am starting to have the impression that she has taken an interest in me. ('Oops, I made a mistake (while dancing) - 'Oh no, yóu can't make mistakes'; she invited me to the dance event my first choice of a dancing partner did not join me for; 'We were talking about men, but don't mind to ask me because I am always ready to dance with the right man'). At the same time I am terrified to end up in a situation with somebody who is still hoping for such kind of ex partner to return. I don't have the impression that her age is an issue although my last two relationships were with women 12 and 10 years younger than me*.

It does feel nice to have this kind of interaction but at the same time I do feel guilty towards her - even when I am not sure she does take a liking in me as she might just be toying around - but I am mostly scared this interaction will have an impact on my chances with the one I really fancy.

*I have often wondered why this could happen as I tend to think this would take a lot of confidence and all other women I have been in love with were roughly my age (say + or - 2 years) but almost always my feelings remained unrequited. I do notice that, in such situations, I don't think about the possibility of persuing something and I believe that makes me act more naturally, more relaxed. And also - but maybe that is a coincidence - it could be that younger women are more willing to take things in their hands themselves because in the end, the final step from getting on fine, seeing each other very often etc. towards a relationship was never on my initiative.