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Old May 16, 2023, 09:40 AM
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Originally Posted by pliepla View Post
Also, I believe I should let go or at least try to find a balance between letting go and at the same time not giving up. But how? It is an idea that terrifies as it implies sitting out my loneliness until a next chance meeting which might not occur for another twenty years.
I agree with your last post, I think finding that balance will be key.

I’m seeing some examples of “all or nothing” thinking in your other posts. I don’t think you should read too much into this woman not spending one on one time with you at this stage.

In my own experience, if it helps you, I was friends with my husband quite some time before we developed a relationship. I wouldn’t say I sought out his company initially but I did like him and it took time to develop that.

Be careful with reading dating advice, there’s a lot of generalised stuff written, but we are individuals with different perspectives and thoughts, we don’t all fit into the pattern these websites write about.
Thanks for this!
Bill3, Pinny