That’s where you are mistaken. You’ve been told over and over that your behavior is wrong. You hassle, weasel and rationalize your behavior in a pitiable way to make them feel sorry for you, but when they stick to their boundaries you get mad and say it’s them. It’s not, it’s you. When you don’t get what you want you lash out and say it’s other people’s fault. YOU are the only one who has control over YOUR behavior.