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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
I’ve had to read up on things for my concerns like Love Addiction. I learned those butterflies in the stomach are mistaken for love, but it’s really that primal fear of rejection from a (potentially) unavailable person.
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I had a therapist who worked with me on recognizing the signs of attraction for wrong people. She said that our bodies respond to familiar.
It’s subconscious response because that’s what we know: unhealthy attachment or unavailable partners or even abusive partners or con men we gravitate towards. It’s nothing to do with love. In fact if we tend to gravitate towards wrong people, the strongest chemistry and attraction we’d feel for exactly those wrong people simply because that’s what our bodies respond to.
Also butterflies are often sign of anxiety around wrong people rather than actual love
She talked about focusing on human qualities of potential partners and general compatibility. Of course chemistry is important but if we tend to choose wrong partners, feeling of chemistry could be very misleading