Be careful feeling like you have to earn someone, because the trap in that thinking is reasoning there is an "earned" outcome which can generate allot of misplaced feelings on the matter. I've been married almost 30 years, but I would never say I earned my wife, anymore than she earned me. Relationships are complex and evolve over time. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses which means at various points one could be doing more of the lifting than the other. And that comes in all forms - (emotionally, financially, physically). So if you feel inclined to carry a scorecard through this maze of events, you are guaranteed to be disappointed every time because nothing in this world reconciles like that.

Being who you are is not a resume you sell to the other person for a position. Throughout my life I've known people that were good for friends and nothing they could have done would have changed that. Others were good partners, but those had an expiration date on them because the long haul was not what one of us or both of us wanted. The future is not set by how you or another person feels will happen. The process is always just what's happening today and over time you can look back and see where you've gone. I nor my wife could have guessed we would be here this far down the road. But then again we weren't thinking that far ahead. We were just working on the present. Believe in you and accept those who are interesting into your life and just see where it goes. Everything happens for a reason, and you have to trust the process of living your life and understand when things do not work out, then that was the natural course of what it was supposed to do.