Please know that the anger you experience is not bad. It’s a sign you actually care about yourself and are slowly seeing that you did not deserve to be treated so badly.

This is not the same anger a narcissist experiences in respect to not getting their way and having control over. Narcissists like to have the power and control over others. They see everything as THEIRS. For example, “my house”, “my children”, my hangout etc. it’s not surprising your teenage children don’t want to be around her. This is the age of self development and self discovery not having mom constantly controlling. Yet, in your case they see her problem with drinking and mood swings so they genuinely don’t feel safe.