I do not have an entire history of dating or seeking out unavailable men. I have had the full gamut of different types of relationships, and I have had MANY, MANY relationships at this point in my life. I have had good, healthy, stable, loving, wonderful relationships with many available men... I have been with a few narcissists and a few abusers... those were toxic and unhealthy for me. This last guy is perhaps the very first man I have dated who says he is not ready for a real relationship. That to me is unavailable.