The only truly available man I’ve ever been with is my husband. And I am 57, met him at 49. No other men were truly suitable for life long healthy relationship. It doesn’t mean they were toxic or awful or didn’t want a relationship. But they still aren’t available in some ways. There is some literature out there on availability.

Most of it stems from upbringing. It’s like you could have excellent and not neglectful parents yet they might be unavailable in some ways.