He says he wasn't performing and was going downhill. He has his mom's inheritance to live off of. This is exactly what Jay had done.. he quit his job after 20 yrs of employment with the same employer and has his father's inheritance money to live off of. People get desperate when they are miserable and may take more drastic measures to remedy it. Sometimes, quitting IS an option and the best option ahead. My ex can easily get another job and so can Jay, given his experience. My ex has 26 or 27 years in the automotive industry. Finding a job in that in that industry is easy... same with in property management, Jay's field. He can get a job too, if he chooses. To each their own... it's not ours to judge…. I’ve quit 4 jobs without having a other lined up, and always landed on my feet again.