You really never know how it is going to turn out. And don't think that because someone is married that he or she is happy. My grandparents were together since they were teenagers - and it worked out for them.

I think society places expectations on us that are, truly, unreasonable and unreal. Relationships fail. If you were stuck in a bad job, people would tell you in a heartbeat to find another. Same with a bad friend. But there is a different standard regarding a significant other. No one tells you to work it out in a bad job or seek counseling with a bad boss.

Then, we something happens, we feel shame, regret... all sort of negative emotions. And negative emotions are frowned upon. But they are part of life, unfortunately. No one wants to feel bad.

I have found the most support in people who have experienced similar disappointments. People who have not cannot relate, and can be judgmental, which does not help.