I get it but the only way to do it is “what you see is what you get”. Otherwise you are risking to waste your time in hopes someone changes their mind. Too many women wait for men to change their minds on having children or marrying or this or that while life passes them by.

Typically if a man tells you he isn’t interested in commitment, it’s to let you know he’s only up to casual stuff. In addition to acting aloof at public events after sleeping together, including not even dancing with you or next to you at the club (the first time it happened), was a clear message that he doesn’t mind good fun but he’s not interested in anything more and will live his life and you live yours.

You even had to ask his friend if Jay likes you, and that’s after he slept with you! You don’t ever have to ask such thing. You’d know. If the guy sleeps with you but then doesn’t even stand by you at the bar, no second chances. Bye. We’re done. You are too nice and you always give second chances. No need for that. I am p…d off half the time on your behalf reading about these bozos.

Now there’s no judgement as I did same stupid stuff myself! Plenty! But we are getting too old for this stuff. No second chances. No guessing how they feel. No hoping they’ll change. Nope. No second chances. Bye bye