I did this, too, when I was young. It stemmed from low self esteem, hoping they’d come to see me, love me. I could win them over when they were just not that into me. It is this seeking the unavailable, like I said.

You are a business professional. If you needed to secure a client who wanted a commitment, you wouldn’t waste your time on one who was telling you they did not. There was your not wanting to hear him that is part of the seeking the unavailable. Just food for thought and I hope it is helpful. Hugs to you.