Moodyblue83, according to what you have shared here,I gather the issue of separation or divorce has been brewing for sometime now, but never materialized. Neither you nor your spouse have taken steps towards the completion, but initiated and left at that.Your original post was about lack of affection in your life.Can you separate lack of sex and lack of affection and then deal with them as issues independent of each other?You can develop an affectionate relationship outside the romantic one.For example you can sponsor an orphan and can have a bond and affection.It doesn't have tobe your wife giving you affection. She is denying it anyways.What I mean to say is affection has many forms and can come from different relationships. It doesn't have to relate with sex.How about your own children and grandchildren?If your grandkid squeals at the sight of you,isn't it a delight and form of affection?Can you try and find such alternate avenues?