Thanks for the reply KJ - I will answer your questions so we can try and get to the bottom of this.

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Premature Ejaculation is defined as ejaculating before you choose to.

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I would have to say that he comes when he is ready (or when it feels to good to wait any longer) - but the timing is not right with me - when I want / need him to come so I too can enjoy the moment.

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I'm supposing that this hasn't been a problem all along, but is something that is 'episodic' - or something that has only recently transpired?

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Right - this problem has only transpired recently.... we have been together for twenty-five years and this has only been an issue with in the last six months...... he could control his timing when he was younger and I was able to get there sooner than I can now.

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It could be due to miscommunication, you see, where he thinks that his timing is just fine.

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No - there is no miscommunication going on here - as I speak up when it comes to sex, always have.
I would say the timing is right for him - just not for me.

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Is it a problem when he is controlling the pace / depth of thrusting or only when you are?

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It is better contained (delayed) when he controls the thrusting....... but I like the thrusting or I can't get there.

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Sounds like it might be best for you to talk to him about this...

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I have talked to him (many times) - he knows - he says he does not like leaving me unsatisfied...... and the only reason he can give me is that it just feels so good to him or the pressure gets the best of him that he is ready to come, and does... Good for Him Bad for Me.

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Seems like a no win situation here.... for ME -
as he gets his sexual pleasure while I am often left behind....... and then there's the fact that to get me where I need to be (him thrusting) only means that he will finish before I am ready - and lets face it most older men only have one shot in them per day or night.

And Yes..... I could always do it myself, but I am looking for the emotional stirring that occurs during sex and not just the sexual feeling one gets from sex.