Thanks Kim,

We have asked her to say why she took it and she just sort of dodged it and left. I doubt that I could talk to her without condemning her, but that is a good suggestion I could work towards if given the chance. I don't want her around because I'm trying to BUILD my ability to trust people and seeing her would only remind me of how I can't trust many people.

As for her probably wanting to feel a part of our bond, but not trying to destroy our relationship, boy would that feel good to hear from her! People who have been hurt usually assume the worse. I don't think she thought taking an object like that would destroy our relationship, but I did/do fear that it was just the beginning of her efforts to take out her frustration us. With all that said, we spent many fun times with them as a couple and grew to really like them. Even though they broke up, we let her know we would still enjoy seeing her sometimes and to not drift away. If she's so frustrated and in need of a bond, why not take it out on someone she doesn't know so well?! Why burn a bridge by stealing? Maybe people underestimate the consequences of negative behavior in friendships?