Block her. Didn’t she block you last time you made contact? Block and she should go through lawyers.

You cannot rationalize her behavior or make sense of it. It doesn’t work that way

When she says what her lawyers are going to do and what’s going to happen, none of it will happen until one of you file for divorce so there’s no point to discuss what might happen. Pointless. I’d not worry about it

I’d not worry what she’s going to find out there.

Yes you are a good person and provider but there are ton of wonderful men and women out there who are abused and mistreated or dumped by their partners every day. Ton of people sadly don’t care that others are good people. It doesn’t stop abusers.

If she cared, you’d not be in this situation. It’s actually possible that she’ll manipulate and dupe somebody same way she manipulated you. So it’s entirely possible another nice person would fall in her trap. Not to diagnose on here but if she has PD (and everything points to it) she is really good in playing games that benefit her.

If you are the one providing health insurance, it takes about 5 minutes to order a new card for the kids. Just call your insurance. You could also order a duplicate of birth certificate. She likely enjoys that you keep asking for it. No need for that

Are you saying you didn’t retrieve mail for these months she was out?? I am sure you can obtain another key for the mailbox

Her having your health insurance is normal as you are legally married. It’s unlikely she also gets insurance at her work. Just because she has it offered, it doesn’t mean she must take it. I am not sure why she needs to share info about insurance from her work place? Did she say she took that health insurance too? Why does she need two?