Yeah, what Divine said re volunteering- friendships can be a spin off along the way but even if you don’t make friends you might well find you get a boost helping out.

No you’re not sad for making friends online, no more than I’m sad for making every single good friend I have from volunteering, there’s no shame in any of this. We’re just trying our best to make friends.

I had wrongly assumed you were having trouble making any friends at all, but if you’re having some success online then I guess it’s working to some degree? If you’ve made some good friends then that’s great.

I don’t think there’s any shame in deciding you’ve had enough of pursuing people, maybe you can use that time and mental energy for a better purpose and take the pressure off yourself.