Ok, so you say you hate your husband and that he is condescending and also appears to be controlling. I don't know the history with your husband and haven't checked your past threads yet, but if you hate him, why don't you think about leaving him? I hated mine after a while, who was also controlling and condescending (and abusive) so I left him, we separated, and now we are divorced and I am beyond happy I made that decision. So, what is keeping you in the relationship at this point?