You hate him? Sadly, am sure there are other people who hate their spouses. Does he hate you too? Going by how he treats he likely doesn’t have warm and fuzzy feelings about you either. How sad that you two stuck in unhappy marriage.

Has he always been this way? Or just started recently? You can’t really change people. You can only change yourself.

Start to plan your exit unless you want to spend another 30 years hating him as he isn’t going to change. I understand you can’t leave today but if you start planning, you might be ready at some point.

Since you never work, you’ll be entitled to alimony until you get on your feet or maybe until SS age and you’ll get half of the cost of the house. So you will be able to start fresh.