My new friend in my building asked me to pick up her mail while she is away. I was happy to do it. I feel this is what friendly neighbors do for each other and have no problem with it. Is this the kind of transaction you are talking about that annoys you?

Now, if my friend starts asking too many favors, it could become an issue. There is a careful balance I will try to do to not get into a situation where I have to draw a boundary and lose a friend/friendly acquaintance.

What would having an ideal friend look like to you?

For me, it’s partly about wanting to have someone to enjoy doing something with. I’m not looking for perfection, and will put up with quite a lot usually because the experience of being together to do xyz and enjoying their company is the point to me.