The problem with putting two people together who are there for support is that eventfully one of them gets better. Once they get better, the other person's support loses its value. You have to want to be there for very organic reasons besides needs. Because if you're literally checking off the list of things to do in a day with someone, I got to believe that bleeds out on how you interact with them and how they subsequently read you.

If self-happiness is something you are not good at, then you know what you need to do. Because the one thing I DO know about lasting relationships is if you do not have an internal gauge for understanding yourself then you're destined to misread everyone else. Why? Because being with people in a meaningful relationship means you develop not only a understanding of their motivations, moods, shortcomings, strengths, and weaknesses, but how you fit into that and whether they can do the same for you.

You have to give allot of yourself in relationships which means you have to know where you stand with yourself to be there properly for others. What you said in your last update was very telling. You placed all the weight on what you didn't do rather than what the two of you did do. It sounded like you were grading a meet and greet with a rock star. " We got to talk and the autograph, but I never received the photo op I was promised," You see how mechanical that sounds? It felt very transactional. I didn't get any sense there were two people trying to connect in that depiction.