Gray rock is the way to go.The narc I am dealing with is an expert in dragging me out of my Gray rock mode,involve me in circular conversations and triggers me to fly off the handle, then smirks.The smirk on narcs face makes me crazy for sure.Any important discussion turns into word salad. You just cannot put in a word edgewise. Sickos. I am sorry you are dealing with a narc.Its exhausting.