All excellent suggestions. Thank you. I appreciate you. I would do the little emoji messages to do hugs and thank you, but I don't know how.
I do not understand grief, not completely. What I do know is it comes in stages.
The best advice I heard was "Grieve for as long as you need to." I told him that. I don't want him to grieve in any specific way. I don't want him to feel like he's alone. I listened. We looked at old photos. Remembered with him as if I were there too and cried with him. Then it all stopped. I don't understand why the tears stopped. It was as if someone flipped a switch and turn the tear drops off. I get the feeling that this process will start over as new details come through.