So my therapy of 20yrs ended abruptly after covid due to my decision for many reasons.

T said I could still message her but she wouldn't message me anymore.

So 3 yrs on and I've messaged T on a couple of occasions. Just to catch up type of thing. The last time I messaged her was October. She did message me on day after Xmas wishing me a happy Xmas.

I still think of her, but think what's the point of staying in touch on this level.

What are others thoughts on this?

Would you still have a catch up message every now and again or just move on?