When we are young we tend to be idealistic and naive. That means one can miss important red flags that can spell trouble in the relationship.

I am so sorry to hear how your children are struggling. Children genuinely struggle when a parent is inconsistent and controlling and disordered.

I do think you should see if they struggle with ADD/ADHD as that is most definitely hereditary. There are things those who struggle can learn to help them manage the challenges that present with ADHD. The key is to find out what the person is most passionate about and can engage in where they can be hyperfocused and happy.

People with this challenge tend to struggle with producing dopamine and are very prone to developing alcohol use problems because of how alcohol produces dopamine. I can’t say enough how high the percentage of ADHD individuals are in the AA rooms. There is almost 60% chance of developing AUD. So education and early coaching is crucial.