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Originally Posted by Discombobulated
How about looking at yourself more kindly as a person who has value in themselves rather than what others think of them?
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I find that position hard to maintain when I am the only one who tries to value me. And at every encounter with somebody whom I fancy that leads to nothing, I only see a confirmation of my lack of intrinsic value. I try to compensate my unworthiness with doing all the things that I currently do.
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv
“ I obviously lack the appeal to have somebody fall for me, the social skills (not the mention the sexual expertise) to enter in a relationship and keep it going. ”
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Are you sure all these are true, or is it that you lack confidence? Can these skills be learned and improved? Would improving these skills give you the confidence you need?
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Who's to tell? Also, how could I learn to improve these skills? I'm comfortable with superficial social contact (but that is not what makes me happy, if anything, it emphasizes my loneliness) but I don't really have that many encounters that I want to take to a next level so I have little opportunity to practice.
And as for sexuality: I am sure to disappoint. Everybody has had more partners than I have, has more experience, has more skill etc. I don't fancy the idea of going to a prostitute to practice. But that might not be what you mean.
I will keep the movies in mind, but I should spend most of my times studying in the near future so these might not be the best idea (ironically I spend some of my time here ...)