I think it’s important to better understand jealousy. I had a hard time with this myself because I did not understand that my older sister did not connect with other people the way I did. It’s also the unhealthy persons need to feel they have all the power and control and they feel threatened if they don’t have what you have. They are constantly insecure and they get angry about their own insecurities. So they tend to take that out on their partner.

Your wife’s desire to advertise herself and find guys she can use on the net or at bars/clubs is a big tell about her ego needing to find others she can use. That is how her friends are too. USERS and you can’t fix that.