Great discussions!

Only one person brought up that I was co-dependent during the demise of my first marriage, and now that I look back, it's not like she explained why or what actions I may have taken to make it so. Seems like it's used loosely. I have a scientific background and was going to dig into it, to see if... well... (maybe?)... I was co-dependent.

@TheGal,

Am not entirely sure that I have a great handle on all of this. I am book smart but not necessarily wise. I've learned a lot by being in this forum, reading lots of books, and watching videos online.

IMHO, these are the types of concepts we should have been taught in high school. We can always learn hard-core skills, but it's soft-skills that sometimes get us in trouble.

You may want to explore whether, indeed, you may be codependent or it may be something else. None of us are perfect.