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Originally Posted by Bill3
I wonder if you could drop feeling adequate as a goal.
I wonder if you could focus on doing well on goals you want to accomplish--and tell the voices of inadequacy "there you go again, you are the endless background noise that I am not taking to heart."
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Sounds like a very ACT-y thing to do. I do believe this can be valueable but at the moment I do quite the opposite, deriding myself for being in love, pointing out in the harshest terms that I will never stand a chance with her and speaking these ideas out loud. I am probably harder to myself than anyone has ever been. I have a long way to go but it is probably a better approach than attempting to actively remember what I am doing well when I have a good day.
Would meditating help me with that? I used to feel better when meditating years ago but with the current unrest in my head, I am scared to start this anew.