As a young couple in our 20s we were having sex about once a month, including those pleading 5 minute sessions.

There was always something, or some combination of things that kept us from being together.

Being given to minutes "finish" with no foreplay or anything created it's own issues. She complained sex was painful, and just wanted it over with.

Well... I didn't want to hurt her so I quit initiating so much. It's actually much bigger than that. I felt like I was assaulting her some of those times.