Ok, the one piece of your puzzle I keep in my mind is that your wife has AD/HD. When someone has this challenge it definitely brings a challenge to the relationship. If a therapist doesn’t have knowledge about AD/HD therapy won’t treat the real challenge and even couples therapy will not help.

There has been an increase in diagnosing Adults with ADHD just in the past few years because it is being studied and better understood. Also people that have ADHD have often been misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder.

We have this wonderful resource called YouTube and if you ask about ADHD and even how this challenge affects sex in a relationship or in the person with ADHD there are actually answers. Also, many women that have ADHD go undiagnosed so they have challenges and behavior patterns that contribute to many of their challenges that can be better managed with the right help and medication.

I sat here this morning and listened to different individuals talk about AD/HD and the very real challenges it presents in someone. I think it’s important to take some time to sit and listen and develop a better understanding of what it means and how it affects relationships.

I did away with cable because it’s so expensive and have been learning about streaming. I stream Youtube and you can ask anything and get exposed to a wealth of information. Honestly, it’s better than just labeling others as narcissists and abusers. I really believe in the efforts to understand the whys better. Once you spend time listening to what is being learned, you end up having a better understanding. I think this is especially important if your partner has AD/HD and you have children.

I do find the behaviors you describe as “dysfunctional and at times toxic”. However, I also know how some behaviors can reflect a genuine condition a person can’t help and needs help learning how to work around it and manage it.

I have been listening to Gina Pera who is married to a Man that has it and how it went undiagnosed. We are talking about a man that is extremely intelligent yet this got missed? As a result Gina is trying to bring awareness so that people not only get diagnosed but helped so they can live a better quality life.

I have been married to a man that has ADHD and Dyslexia for going on 43 years. There are so many things discussed that hit home in terms of the challenges I have faced with his behavior patterns.

The truth is that therapy for individuals with this challenge can be hard to come by. Yet, the good thing is more awareness and individuals that are sharing information that means something instead of being left alone and confused.

So as I have mentioned before, invest some time learning. This talk given by Gina Pera is helpful and she has written a book. Her talk is about Adult ADHD & Relationships.

I also listened to Hannah Witton discuss the Impact of ADHD on sex and relationships. Very educational and helpful.