Hi Artie! I hope you don’t mind me responding to this. I have this same exact thought as well. Why on earth did it take my life completely falling apart to try and make changes? And yes-Why did it take so long and so much to do it? My therapists have said that it takes what it takes. They can’t force you to want to change. It has to come from us. I hate that! I don’t want to put in the work to help me feel better!

Ot sucks, but one of my therapists (i am inpatient) said to me today when I expressed regret for all the things I’ve lost. She told me that if I look at life constantly in to the rear view mirror, then of course life will pass me by. You are missing being in the present moment.

I don’t know, i rambled, sorry!