@Samicat Yes, the past can sometimes hit us in the face out of nowhere. I have made myself a list with "happenings" that I shall use when starting to feel down. So I tell myself to look at the list to see if this or that is something I need to use my tools from my "toolbox" on. Usually that works fine.

This time I found some information about my fathers mother that wasn't right, put out by one of the relatives of my biological grandfather. (My father would have been 99 now). Of course that was not on my list. Who expects to be hit by 100 years old problems?

I am OK now and will "watch myself" for the next few days to see if I am on "the right track". There are many "things" we cannot control in this world, so we have to learn to live with them.

I wish you well in this time where you are at a turning point in your life.