I haven’t read all your posts. From the title of your thread, I will focus on you moving forward from this point. I’m not sure if you are divorcing, estranged, or trying to work on it with your wife. From what I read about her not spending Mother’s Day with her kids, that says it all to me about her state of mind and the situation.

I have also researched greatly about personality disorders, mood disorders, and ADHD due to my own concerns. Many of the traits overlap and it is very difficult to know exactly what is at play. In ADHD there is RSD, “ Rejection sensitive dysphoria (RSD) is when you experience severe emotional pain because of a failure or feeling rejected. This condition is linked to ADHD and experts suspect it happens due to differences in brain structure.”

It is only now, after watching all the youtube videos, that I am understanding I suffered narcissistic abuse. It doesn’t matter if it stemmed from me or anyone having a health issue like ADHD or not, it was still abuse. Regardless of who may have had what health condition, the relationship was irreparably toxic (as is yours), and ending it and being healthy is the solution in moving forward.