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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo
Are you stating what you want when you email him? For example, asking for an extra session or to bring your session forward. If you are not safe, you need to go to the hospital (I am sure you know this) and if he doesn't provide crisis support you need to work out other sources of support. Have you agreed what outside session contact looks like or worked out a safety plan with him? Maybe your feelings of manipulation come from not being explicit and clear about your needs so you fear you are trying to creep through the backdoor to get them met.
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I agree with all of this. I've found that it's best to be very clear with my T about what I'm looking for from an email Like I might say "I could really use a few words of support right now" or "I'm concerned about this conflict we had and could use some reassurance that everything is OK."
I've also learned that if I want an extra or earlier session, I need to come out and ask for it. I can't hope that he'll just offer. He'll generally give me one if he has an opening--if he doesn't, if it's on emergency/crisis level, he's made time before, but sometimes he just can't, which I understand.
I think it would be good to have a discussion about outside contact, etc. in a future session. Also, if you feel your session time isn't enough, it is at all possible to see him twice a week, even just temporarily (for a couple months, say)? It could be worth asking about. I found going more than once a week to be really helpful.