Oh, I should say....

In order of events.

1. Wanting sex over with quickly, that happened very early on in our marriage. Within a year or so after we got married. I felt like I was injuring my wife whenever we had sex.

2. The story of traumatization came out. That made me really reign in sexual desires.

3. After she "got over" the above trauma, the breast cancer scare and anxiety around that became a reason to not be intimate for a period of time.