My family used to have angry out bursts at me. In return, I used to be angry a lot because I couldn't confront my family for anything and get any respect. I was told I was wrong, stupid and a bad person. I wasn't allowed to defend myself. I just had to accept I was at fault whenever they decided. Nothing about it was healthy.

This lead me to have angry outburst at people outside my family whenever I thought I was never going to be respected and I had to accept their negative labels of me. It took me a long time to figure out why I was so angry.

Holding emotions and keeping it inside is hard. It took me a long time to learn to adjust my behavior to the outside world.

Although I feel hurt that people don't like me or would say hurtful things to me, I had to stop lashing out on people and stop having expectations of people that they should know better.

I am learning to give up rights to care about what people think about me. Those people who don't respect me are not my true friends.

I have had to learn to not get anger to others when I am really angry at myself which leads to self harm.

I have had to do a lot of self reflection and understand that it's unhealthy to lash out at people and to myself.

I don't want to be an angry person. I try my best not to show anger again unless it's really justified but that is almost never. Most things are not worth getting angry and losing control.

The damages that comes with anger cannot be undone. It only becomes regretful.

Of course, I stay away from toxic people. They are not in my life. But that wasn't always an option when I was around family. I maintain boundaries away from them. I don't engage in conversations with them when they are being insulting. I avoid reacting to anything anymore.

I try to allow people to express themselves and not allow it to bother me. I try to listen to what they have to say and try to not look at it as a personal attack.

Internally, i try to assess whether I am in a dangerously situation or not.

From working in customer service, I don't like being around angry people. I don't like having to talk to them when they are angry.

If I don't like to see anger in others, I am sure others don't like to see it in me.

I know I am more fun loving to around when I am easy and I can brush off things and stay in control.

I am working towards minimizing things that caused me angry. And try to express myself in healthier ways.

What are healthy ways do you deal with these strong emotions?