Anger can be a complex issue when we come from homes that had serious dysfunctional issues that cause us to see ourselves in a bad light. I commend you for taking ownership of that impact and understanding how it filters out of you and how it impacts your interpretation of events. Its a great step towards getting to the place where you can manage and even overcome allot of issues. One thing I learned to do early in my life is not to let people define my value with words. If I can use an analogy here, words are like rain. If you want to walk out unprotected and let it beat you in the face, you can do that. OR you can cover yourself with the umbrella of your identity that says you DO matter and you will decide when to get wet and when to let the rain glide off your protected cover.

In this day and age with social media, people are beyond mean when protected by a keyboard. They are unfiltered, self-righteous, judgmental, and outright crude. Sadly most of that are actually things coming from inside themselves that they desperately need to supplant onto others. No matter how you're communicating, always remember to speak to others as you want them to speak to you. If you come across people who are crude, just ignore their words and move on. They told you everything you need to know. Don't waste the energy with a counter like they got to you. Its like walking past smelly garbage. Do you really need to examine the contents? Of course not. Just quickly move away from the odor.

Believe it or not, that assessment will go a long way towards helping you build a better life and find good people to surround yourself with. In the same vein, it will teach you to hug those traits in personality and communication for yourself you didn't get growing up. Its a self-fulfilling gesture that grows the world you want to live in. Be the person you want to be and don't put any energy into those who are not good for you. Its like keeping a home clean. When the cans get full, take out the trash. Do that in your life and you'll have a better appearance with everything around you.