Given that about 60% of those with ADD/ADHD self medicate with alcohol/marijuana/and stimulants like cocaine, caffeine and nicotine. A partner or child never really knows what state they are in.

What people don’t understand about ADD/ADHD is that it’s a disorder of SELF regulation, not attention. It’s a struggle to produce dopamine due to how their brain is and they can have many discussions going on in their minds all at once. My husband who has ADHD talks out loud a lot in the shower, while working on his boat, and it can get distracting because you wonder if he is talking to someone or himself.

People with this challenge like to go to clubs and drink and listen to music and interact. They like drama and people because they derive a dopamine rush. They become addicted to this life style along with several failed relationships.

Yes, these individuals have a problem they need help for. Yet, it’s important for a partner or child or friend to understand it’s not their fault when this kind of individual is unhappy and takes it out on others.